There’s a trend in many of the questions I’m asked by leaders I admire most. Most of these questions all have to do with leading the most difficult person in your life: YOU!

One leader in particular whom I admire serves at the national level for Joni and Friends. His questions inspired me to write out some thoughts that I’d like to share with you.

Growing a culture of generous giving is no easy task, and growing your ability to lead yourself well is a key factor in taking things to the next level.

When I think of leading myself well, there are a couple of things to which I’ve devoted careful time and attention because these don’t come naturally to me: successful systems and habits …

I’ve been reading The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale lately. It’s one of those classic books that has sold millions of copies, but for some reason I haven’t gotten around to reading it until now. Probably because the title kind of put me off, but I'm actually really enjoy it!

One of the things that has struck me about this book is how many medical professionals the author has spoken to that link physical illness to broken thinking. One doctor he spoke to (Dr. Franklin Ebaugh) said the makeup of illness at hospitals was roughly as follows …

I was shocked but not as much as I should have been.

The social media background check revealed postings that included vulgar, sexually explicit language and posted videos about prostitution and drunkenness. The individual is a professing Christian with a credible profession of faith.

I've also encountered professing Christian parents, seminary students, and even Christian educators who routinely use foul and expletive filled language.

I have enough experience under my belt that nothing should surprise me anymore. I'm also theologically literate enough to understand human depravity.1 Yet, despite my life experiences and theological training, I am continuously and increasingly shocked by the gap between what so many Christians profess and how so many Christians live. And how they speak.

Bad language like sexual perversion is being normalized even among Christians.

This ought not to be …

During a recent speaking engagement where I focused on how you can grow your network of generous givers, a leader asked me: “Do you reach out to people who you are friends with? If so, how do you ask them to get involved or give generously to your vision?”

I can best answer this question by quoting a Grand Ole Opry country music star I once knew. He would say, “Wherever you are, there you are.”

Wherever you are, there you are …

A good man does not ask what is the way in which he must walk, or in which is the most pleasant walking, but what is the right way, the way in which he should walk. – Matthew Henry

They never said it would be easy. Leadership is hard. It always has been and always will be. Leading schools in a pandemic may be one of the harder leadership challenges. This is especially so in acountry sharply divided into political tribes and saturated with an entitled, “me first” perspective.

As we entered another difficult school year, I want to offer words of encouragement and perhaps some useful perspective as you are faced with hard decisions and hard reactions.

You will face criticism …

A member of our team was approached with an amusing question. Her younger son asked why we celebrate Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, and even Grandparent’s Day … but not “Kid’s Day” in America.

Not wanting to sound bitter or patronizing, she simply replied that _every day_ is a day to celebrate awesome kids, but sometimes we as parents need a pat on the back from time to time.

Do you, as a leader, ever feel like this? Could you use a fist bump every now and then?

I know I’ve been there.

I want to share a powerful method we’ve seen work again and again for leaders. I believe it will help you focus in the year as you look ahead to the next ten to twelve months.

Focus on establishing a group of highest priority prospects for you and your ministry this year.

We are not saying to abandon the meetings, planned communications, and other various things you’re doing to connect with people. If it’s working – keep doing it. However, as your organization grows its giving, the tendency is to leave people where they were when you last “saw” them. What we want to do instead is challenge you to focus in with a handful of people and take them deeper in your organization’s journey toward your vision.

We can see this same discipline to prioritize how time is spent with specific people in the life of Christ. He did not heal every person He came across. He spoke to the multitudes. Look closely at the Scriptures and you see there is also a bit of a structure, a hierarchy, in how He related to people. He had the multitudes. He also had the seventy-two He recruited and sent out, those He hand selected. For an even higher priority, He had the twelve; within the twelve, He had three in whom He invested specific and unique individual time.

You can feel and see it, things are warmer and brighter—meteorologically and mentally!

The cold gray of winter is behind us replaced by blue skies, warm days, bouquets of flowers, yards sprouting to life, and trees clothed in green, filled with the chorus of singing birds.

We also sense the gradual fading of the dark pandemic winter. As vaccines roll out there is hope for the glad return to normal when once again we can see smiling faces unobscured by masks, feel the warm embrace of friends, and enjoy stadiums filled with cheerful and cheering fans …

As a team, we at Development and Leadership Coaching believe as much in the health of the people as we do their ministries.

I want to share a few thoughts with you, whether for yourself or a colleague. This if for those who are dealing with an episode of significant anxiety or depressive thoughts.

Planning Byproduct

Anxiety and overwhelm leading to depressive tendencies are a natural byproduct of good planning.

Prior to having a plan we tend to be reactive. Now having a plan brings clarity about an imagined future which can cause a huge amount of anxiety and depressive tendencies because we start to count the cost and measure ourselves against the goals.

The disciplines of prayer, journaling, and focusing on handling each day with excellence one day at a time become much more important.

Self Care is NOT Selfish …